Men are struggling when it comes to modern chivalry, according to a report published today.
Despite 78 per cent of women saying they would love to receive a romantic letter or poem, only half of men (50 per cent) have penned either, the study found.
Most women claim they would treasure a love letter, or poem, for the time and effort spent writing it, which is perhaps why 6 per cent of men confessed to passing off existing romantic poetry as their own in order to impress the fair sex.
While the passionately composed love lyric was an important feature of wooing in olden times, today’s men are more inclined to use their mobiles to dash off a text (21 per cent) or an emailed message (11 per cent) to their loved one, according to the Lindt Lindor Code of Modern Chivalry report.
The study found that while the majority of women are regular users of Facebook and Twitter, 56 per cent would feel disappointed to receive a wall message or tweet instead of a traditional greetings card this coming Valentine’s weekend.
The study found that 62 per cent of women would like to be complimented on their appearance, while a third (33 per cent) appreciate a partner with good eye contact, regarding this as a sign of devotion.
It also unearthed the behaviour that would-be modern knights should avoid at all costs:
- If taking one’s loved one for dinner, pick up the bill – a third of women (32 per cent) admit they do not expect to ‘go Dutch’ on Valentine’s Day.
- Focus on the lady one is with – wandering eyes are a major cause of offence for eight in 10 (80 per cent) women.
- Switch off the phone and Blackberry, or even better, leave them at home. Interrupting the evening with a phone call, text or email would almost unanimously irritate women (98 per cent).
Relationship expert Jenni Trent Hughes said: “We may no longer be knights in shining armour or damsels in distress, but we still want and need romance – it is part of our emotional DNA.